"When a baby has a low impact on their parents -- isn't 'demanding,' is 'easy' or 'good' -- it is often, in some childcare philosophies, considered a good thing. But manipulating a baby into having the least effect on you is dehumanizing. You need to allow your baby to impact you. If you don't, the child will have to overadapt to feel like they belong, and in so doing they lose a sense of themselves and some of their humanity"
- Philippa Perry