"As a parent, you can interrupt and interfere with the natural process by not observing, not listening, not sufficiently seeing the world from the child's standpoint. So if a parent 'misses' too many cues from the baby or is too demanding of the baby, it's unlikely the baby will learn to feel secure in this main relationship -- that is, until the parent changes their pattern of relating by becoming observant and responsive."
- Philippa Perry